Singapore’s Chinatown has a very special and unique name – Niu Che Shui ( 牛车水 ). The name means ‘bullock carts water’ when directly translated in Mandarin. In the early days, bullock carts were used to ..... [read more]
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I was a graduate of Singapore Polytechnic, and continued my studies in Singapore Institution of Management (SIM). There is one thing about SIM which I disliked and a total turn-off, the computer labs. In Singapore Polytechnic, you can access to any of their computer labs and use them as long as you have your student pass. Researching and doing work in school was never a problem.
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My Pretty FlowerLabels: Singapore
The first english church in Singapore, founded by Sir Stamford Raffles. Standing majestically on one of Singapore's busiest street, it is definitely a Cathedral you should not miss. Even Singaporeans - re-discovering Singapore is our lifetime hobby.
Angkor Wat
So squeezy! Everyone is endangering everyone's life by pushing. Lucky for me, got a lady who is climbing right in front of me gave me a helping hand.
We finally reached the top. It's sunset!
Walking in the Park, and ya, most of the toddlers are either half naked or bared. The girls are selling necklaces to tourists. 3 for USD1, I heard.
Took this at the Land Mines Museum. The Museum took in peoples who are injured or crippled because of land mines, and even provides education for them. The living conditions are bad, even the buildings are quite run down, and when we were leaving, the kids practically crowd over to ask for money. Now they are trying to improve the living condition, and be more able to provide the kids with proper education, with insufficient funds. You can always help them by making donation.
It's a nice experience. I wouldn't say no, if I were given a chance to go there again. Singaporeans are so much more fortunate. Cambodian worried for the necessity, and what does most of us worry for?
Photos are property of Singapore Own Artificial Intelligence, to be credited if used.
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Visit Esplanade now:
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Lee Hsien Loong told Parliament that the GST will be raised from 5 percent to 7 percent to finance social programs and help people with low income. The details of the tax changes will be announced in the budget in February.
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Sometimes couples are very happy together, laughing, sharing jokes and kisses. Some days, they fight; the guy is unhappy with the girl because she smiles at the guy at the next table; the girl is unhappy with the guy because the amount of time spent together is always unbearable little, even the most trivial things like who wash the dishes. In good days, people are always forgiving and in bad days, they pull each other hairs. Sometimes, they seem as though they are at each other neck and a break-up seem inevitable and then a few months down the road, you bumped into them on the street smooching and sharing a cup of mocha, like newlyweds.
So, since every couple goes through the same cycle – happy, contented, irritated, tired, angry, delighted, nervous breakdown and so on, what makes a lasting relationship different from one that do not last?
To understand what constitute a lasting relationship, you must first understand what will cause a relationship to deteriorate, to make good is to take out the bad elements first.
1. Are you listening?
Communication is one of the necessities that comes with the relationship, and thus most people would take it for granted, assuming the ability to enjoy the communication process would equals to the capabilities to reach an agreement during an argument/conflicts.
Listen to what your partner have to say is very important, because he/she is telling you what he/she wants. To attack straight to the core of the problem is to know what to offer. Thus you have to listen, not just hearing the words, filter away the tone he/she is using and listen to what he/she is trying to let you know.
Listen to yourself too. Is your tone too harsh? Even if you have all the reasons to be angry or it is definitely not your fault, talking too harsh turn people off and thus totally defeating the purpose of trying to communicate your thoughts to the party. Talk in a calm and nice manner, and if your temper doesnt allow you to do so, you can always write! Letters, notepad or even a card saying 'I Love You'. Small little things to solve BIG BIG problems.
2. Running Away from Problems
All of us have a moment of weakness, so that doesn’t make you unique. Sometimes the problem might just seem to daunting to be resolve, and you might just feel like running away from it. Yes, we know that running away do not solve problems. Avoidance of problems and issues arising from your relationship might seem to be the only way out as you could not find a solution to it, no matter how hard you tried. In my opinion, to avoid an issue is a show of weakness and of course, the negativity that is in you that might you believe that avoiding is better than facing it.
First, negativity does not work with anything that would work out positively, agreed? So if you really do wish for your relationship to be lasting, the first thing you should do is to have a positive mindset. Elusiveness might represent your unwillingness to work out the solution with your partner. Are you trying too hard on your own? Have you told your partner about how you felt towards the whole issue? Since the relationship revolves around love, then both parties’ feeling should be taken into consideration, and both of you should possess a willing heart to solve the problem together.
It’s really useless if one party keep on trying and the other just want to give up; by avoiding you are actually depriving the other party a chance to solve the issue with you. Be fair. Face it together, therefore no matter what the outcome would be, at least you know that it’s a worthwhile try – it is a relationship that you put in your 101%, thus no regrets.
Your partner might be unhappy with you for certain things, let him/she knows that you understand how he/she is feeling and perhaps comes to a compromise. Assure him/her that his/her feelings are well taken care of. Avoiding is akin to shirking responsibility, and how would you feel if your partner just shirk the responsibility? Even when you managed to avoid the first issue, are you able to avoid every issue that arises from the relationship? Avoidance is like throwing your dirty clothes into a basket placed at a corner of your house, when you run out of clothes, you will have to look into the basket again – just an accumulation of problems, what’s so fun about it? Do not drag, when faced with a problem, faced it together.
3. How well are you taking your partner’s ‘shit’?
Did you flare up and slam at him? Statistics show that criticism is the 2nd highest reason why couples spilt up. When he/she does wrong, explain it to him/her, let him/her know how you are feeling about it and a change would be needed. Talk things out, reasoning is good provided if the other party is listening. So see, here we are back into the same dilemma, the KEY is the couple willingness to make the relationship last. When you are willing, any problems are being much easily solved. No matter what is it, talk things out. You find your girl too demanding, you have two choice - talk to her nicely, let her know how you feel and what do you want so that both of you can come to an agreement or suggest a breakup. You have a choice, everyone does.
The most commonly named problem that couples in distress consistently identify is communication breakdown. Couples often invest enormous personal energy into repeating destructive ways of relating. These couples become shackled to past events which begin to define and shape their relationship. Confronting our own issues is a difficult and challenging task and not one that is easily embarked on. It is the primary reason why so many relationships spend a great deal of time stumbling around in a way that risks leading to marriage failure.
4. Hierarchical – Are both of you standing at the same platform?
When you think that you are more superior to your partner, you are moving closer to the doom of the relationship. The reasoning is simple; would you listen to someone whom you deemed to be less capable/analytical than you? This mentality will indirectly causes conflicts between you and your loved ones. One might tried to take on more responsiblities as the stronger parties, the other might just took on too much blame for whatever that went wrong. A love relationship is works badly when there is a discrimination of the other party strength/capability in solving issues or as simply as creating a romantic scene. Perhaps this discrimination can be more strongly seen in who brings the bread home.
Look back, hard and long, at the beginning of your relationship. How did you get started in this a relationship with him/her? What is the setting of the first date/meeting?
The setting is considerably important, as everything will follow suit, having an indirect or sometimes direct impact on your relationship. Just like, if you let your boyfriend makes the decision for a first few dates, then it is motion begin set. He will continue to plan and make decision, and you will follow. If he took grip of your loneliness to be with you, could you be really in love with him when you commit into this relationship, and one day, if you found the purpose of your life and realised that you are no more lonely, will you still be able to love him? Of course, you might have developed feelings for the other party, and could it be love or just an emotional bundle that you have got used of it?
Making sure that the foundation of the relationship is healthy, might as well lower your risk of getting into a bad relationship (quantities is nothing to do with quality, yeah?), and make sure the other party think likewise.
In all, couples who are sincerely in love will definitely find strength in maintaining happiness in the relationship.
Labels: Relationships
So now it is the trend for leggings + heels? A sense of casualness and elegance, ain't you getting inspired?
I am captivated by this picture by Zara - young, elegant, posh with a sense of seduction. Labels: Fashion
Wana' go casual and stylish at the same time? Gap it. 
Mix and match. Gap is about styling and injecting your own personal voice into basic clothes. Look into your wardrobe, and play your own fashion consultant!Labels: Fashion
